searchingmysoul, I'm so sorry your last session was so horrible.
I am glad you were able to be furious. Your T deserves your anger. Heck, I'm angry at her, just from reading your post.
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she asked what was keeping me from scheduling another appt with her...
if I chose to work with her...
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Doesn't sound to me like you had much choice in the matter, since she unilaterally terminated you.
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however if I chose to work with her I would learn to do that and could start by discussing how I feel about certain language in session
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This just sounds terrible to me. Like, "you WILL do what I say, you WILL do it my way." If it were me, I would be ducking, because I got that language growing up and it was usually followed by a fist. Some trauma therapist.
I know the whole thing hurts, but I can't help but think, good riddance. She really sounds damaging. It amazes me she thinks you could continue working with her without some sort of repair. The ultimate boundary is leaving a person, so good for you to stand firm and not put up with more from her.
I'm glad you have another T already. My therapist has also been the couples therapist for me and my H (soon to be ex-H). It worked out fine. I see my T for individual therapy, and at one time, we did couples work with him. We still have a couples session now and again. We had one just 2 weeks ago. My T is a family systems therapist and knows how to work with multiple members of a family. I think a number of therapists have this training, and it sounds like yours can accommodate this too. Best of luck with her.
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A broken mess of brokenness.
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It is criminal how your therapist contributed to this feeling. I hope your new T will hold your pain and you will feel better fast so you can move onward in your journey.
