Searching, you did good with that other therapist! Good Work standing up for yourself!

About feeling bad (?) about getting your needs met. I'll bet you can trace this back to your past. Of course all of us here didn't get our needs met as children because someone else was sucking up all the "needs getting met" when we were growing up. You must have formed some beliefs in your child mind at that time about your needs. I would think that it would be worth exploring what those beliefs might be because you still have them in your head. Once you uncover these beliefs and work on them it is very healing and they stop holding you back.

I am glad that you have a good therapist all lined up!