This is an issue so close to my own heart.
T told me that if she thought it would be helpful she would, but she didn't think that. That was 2 years ago. I still talk about the craving physcial comfort but I can't ask because I can't risk the denial. I too am tired of talking about it because all I get is the canned empathy "That must be so difficult/frustrating/hard/blah blah blah."

I don't think you made too big an issue out of it. It is an important issue with you. I can understand the difference between wanting the hug and wanting T to initiate it, how it would feel different.

But what sounds hopeful is that your T does seem willing. Even if she is wrong about having offered, it sounds like she would consider it when it would be comforting. Maybe it's just a matter of timing.

I do hope you'll keep talking about it because it's so important to you. But I also understand the frustration!