Hi DocJohn,
Unfortunately some people can zap us out of their minds somehow and forget all we did and all we cared and all we had. My mother did it to me and so did my last great love many years back. It hurt as bad as when someone died. They chose someone else over me. I was so very distraught I wanted to die--just to tell you that I know the agony of this kind of rejection. Now, I have a fear of it bad. Hope to get over it someday before I die though. I agree that someone should acknowledge what there was and what we tried to do and how much we cared.

I really think that people that act as your girlfriend is acting are not totally into their feelings and more into escaping from things instead. My last love found someone else right away after we had a big falling out. Then I was tormented for a long time trying to get back with him. I felt anger and humilation bigtime. Maybe that's why I shy away from a relationship after that utter agony. But we have to remember there are more mature ready for relationships and committment type of people out there for us. I keep telling myself that at least......yes, there is still hope.

If you don't mind me saying you have a whole lot going for you. You are accomplished, very attractive, and caring and open to change. What more can a woman ask for? There are many more who will want you.

About relationships someone once said to me: "If she doesn't want me, I don't want her!" I've thought about that for years and he made sense. Unfortunately at the time I had hoped to be able to come to that conclusion which is a tough one.

Hope you keep your chin up and remember all the good you are and do. CQ

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