Hi Echoes,

I don't try anymore to figure out what I want from T in general Instead I try to figure out what I want from each session. The operative word here is try. It just seems that the dynamic nature of therapy would require that the need changes from session to session. In addition, as we change, grow, and heal our needs will change as well. Maybe you are in one of those places where you are a bit more grown up and your goals, hopes, and dreams are changing. It's like saying "what do I want from a parent?" The only appropriate answers are the overarching ones such as love and understanding and validation, because we are all individuals and the specifics will always change, from time to time and person to person.

Having said all of that I think it's a good idea to discuss this from time to time with T to make sure you are both speaking the same language. It's such a seesaw isn't it? Just the other day T asked me what I needed from the session and I panicked, so in that moment I became very little again. Two steps forward, one step back.

xo