I am currently working through a tough time with my boyfriend - he broke my trust and he is still working on getting my trust back. I haven't had sex with him in a little over a month and I won't do anything until I am ready but I can tell he's struggling with the sexual frustration. I understand were in our early 20's-hormones are raging but thats no excuse to push your luck; especially when I'm giving him a second chance. I know he tries to be compliant but I just feel so tired of keeping my distance. It's so hard for me to let go of anger and I focus on 18 credits of school, working, i'll have summer school starting then immediately going to work full time. I feel like I can't slow down to really work on my relationship. It's really wearing me down and I don't know if this is self-sabotage or just a normal part of a struggling relationship.

How can I just learn to slow down and regain some emotional energy?