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Apr 27, 2009, 06:36 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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~ RACEKA...
I went through DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and one thing we learned about anger and hate were that they are what is known as secondary emotions. Primary emotions are like happiness, disgust, fear, sadness. More often than not, our 2ndary emotions follow the primary ones, and act as a protective defense against the primaries, thus protecting us from pain and sadness. This might be something for you to think on a bit and see if it makes sense to you and your situation.
Another thing I'd like to point out....I have come to realize, in myself, that I too have a great hateness in me towards my abuser(s). It makes me sick inside how much hate and hostility that I have inside me. But, I have come to know, that in order to have the ability to hate to such an extreme, one must also have the ability to love to that same extreme. They both need to be present, so that they may balance eachother out. So, even though you hate much, just remember that inside you is the most tremendous capacity to love!!
I don't know if this helps...but I hope it does!! 
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