I think what you are seeking...a nurturing, healthy relationship with someone who really cares and wants and is able to interact with you in a personal (not professional) relationship.... is very healthy. Hopefully you are not putting yourself down for wanting this.

Maybe you can use the professional relationship you have with your T work on how to develop and create these nurturing healty relationship with other people in your church, family, or to create new friendships. One major advantage I've gained through therapy is learning how to recognize people around you that have... good friendship potential.

When I first started therapy I was very depressed and feeling totally alone and isolated from the world. I eventually realize..I wasn't really isolated and alone...I just had totally shut down and couldn't see the that I had people around me that would make good friends... if only I would take a few small steps to connect better with them. I can't tell you how many times I've found find myself ... "knee deep in a river, and dying of thirst"

When you write about your congregation... it sounds like a really supportive group..I bet there are other people (other than the two you mentioned) that would make great friends who could support, hug, occasionally drag you out of bed on bad days, and do all the other caring things friends can do but therapist can't. From your postings here..you seem like you would have a lot to offer a friend in return too.

Even a touch freak like me sees that touch (especially safe, supportive, positive touch) is an important human need.