Sounds like another collaborative session. I like how you are taking some time to reflect on your marriage, the good, bad, and ugly. Your posting seemed very balanced both recognizing the things you attempted and the shoulda, coulda, woulda 's. It seems like you and your T are closing the loop on your marriage and preparing you to take full advantage of the joys to come in the future.

I hate when I realize that I willingly made choices that resulted in recreating childhood dynamics. The good thing for you Sunny is that you seem to be taking the steps to heal your wounds and insure that you are not likely to make these unconscious choices in the future.

Thanks for the positive posting... Just what I needed before heading off to my session. I'm going to try my best to have a positive, connected session too.