Thunderbear,

I know what you mean.....it is so sad that even with illnesses that are so traumatic, the care & respect isn't given to the person who is dying. I know we are more sensitive when it's our parent, but I believe that the treatment of all people who are dying is not handled with the sensitivity & respect that it should be.

Sadly, that person who did the home care with my mother walked away to do it again. My report with adult protective services was messed up & when I talked to a man who was the leison between the police & APS, he said it would open a can of worms (maybe I should have).....but there was a change of command at the time & nothing was done about that. The police couldn't get enough on the lady because I stopped everything from happening when I stopped payment on the checks, she knew not to cash them & everything else was her word against mine as I caught everything before she could really do it......so she is out there abusing more older people with cancer, stealing everything she can from them....justifying it by the fact they are dying anyway.

Oh my unresolved anger about these things does hit many times, but I try hard not to let it eat me up or it would....I try to let it out usually in places where it might help someone. I keep praying that someday, she will be arrested & they will call me & let me know that I can be a witness against her.

I have plastered the story in many places on the internet so if anyone google her name, they the story will come up.....but not much more I can do than that now. Since moving to Ky, the nightmares have gone away & here, there is no chance of running into any of them.....so I am more free here to have my life back to more normal....only the memories hit when something triggers them.....so I am much better than when I was in California.

It is horrible when we think back & realize things that happened that we couldn't realize & stop at the time....I know exactly the feelings you are going though.......

Debbie