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Old Apr 28, 2009, 08:16 PM
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OMG...I can't understand you why you are complaining this much?
He's a perfect guy...I wish I could have a guy like him...If I love somebody, I want to be in touch with the person most of the time....why not?
My ex-boyfriend was like this and I loved it...It was great...I had to move to another country and we had long distance relationship and we were constantly in touch....then we found out he can't move here with me...and we didn't have a choice, we had to break up....It was so hard on both of us....
It looks like you have a jewllery and you don't appreciate it...what? you want a guy whom I was dating and he was barely calling me....I dumped him! He was calling all the time at the begining and then we had fight and when we got back together, he stopped calling me....He was taking revenge....well...I couldn't stand with his childish behaviour....
If this is bothering you, then he's not a right person for you....you got to find a cold guy who's giving you lots of hard time and you wait for his call....or you call him or text message him and not getting any answer back....
Please appreciate this guy....he's sweet and he just wants to be with you...that's really adorable....rarely you can find a guy like him....appreciate him....

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Originally Posted by StarChaser17 View Post
Well, I haven't been on in a while. Because I basically use the site to get advice, and then try to work things out on my own. I confronted my boyfriend about this incident, and he immediately apologized, and took full fault.

I didn't break up with him, because really, I do love him.

So, now it's a few months later, and we've been doing fine. I saw him for a week in March, and for a few days a couple weeks ago. Whenever I'm with him, we don't have any problems. We get along perfectly. I love being with him.

Sense the incident I described above, we haven't had any real problems.

It's just, that, he still messages me all the time. We're dating, we're dating long distance, and for the most part I want to talk to him. However, he continues to leave me messages, just to say hey, on various websites I go on, facebook, different gaia accounts. I don't like being left messages, and the fact he says, not to bother you, I just wanted to say hey, doesn't negate the fact that I've told him I don't like it when he leaves me messages everywhere.

Today he me a message on one account, saying to check another account, where he left me this message. It wasn't enough just to give me the message, he had to leave me messages about getting the message. Instead, maybe just, asking if I got it the next time we talk.

This was the message.

I'm just leaving you a message to tell you how much I love you.
I just wanted you to know how much you mean to me.
You have given me the inspiration to actually do more with my life than anyone else I've ever met.
I hope you realize this.
I love you so much it's hard to put into words.
I hope you have a wonderful rest of the day, and week.
I can't wait to have you in my arms again.
July is going to be great.

Love,

Which on one level is sweet. On another level, we talked yesterday, we talk almost every day. Everyday he tells me he loves me, so I don't feel like he needs to send me this message.

His last girlfriend was abusive. She threatened suicide if he didn't call her all the time, and devote all his time to being availble to her, and proving he loved her. I think maybe this behavior is something instilled in him by that relationship.

I love my boyfriend. I don't want to break up, and I've worked through things in the past. However, generally, if I bring something up that bothers me, he'll just appologize. I feel like, if he just says he's sorry, that he doesn't really understand why this bothers me.

I don't even know how to exsplain it. It's sweet that he left that message, it's nice, but...I don't know.
Thanks for this!
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