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Originally Posted by chaotic13
It seems like you and your T are closing the loop on your marriage and preparing you to take full advantage of the joys to come in the future.
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I think that's right. I was thinking before I would just have to "move on" without closing the loop but now I am seeing that there is indeed work we can do with just me and my T on this in therapy (I had been thinking before that it was work I really needed to do with my H).
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I hate when I realize that I willingly made choices that resulted in recreating childhood dynamics.
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I don't hate it. I see it as an expression of the indominitability of the human spirit. T has told me we replay out these childhood dramas again and again in unconscious attempts to surmount them and make the ending different. So every repetition of a pattern is an attempt to "do it right." So don't be down on yourself about that, chaotic. With luck and work, one day you can get it right and be free of the past. I'm working on that and I think it will be the huge triumph of my divorce--that at last I said "no" and had the power and strength to back that up.
chaotic, I hope your session went well.
