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Old Apr 29, 2009, 01:56 AM
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it can seem like forever and like things never get better and maybe get worse. but improvements sneak up behind taking little tiny turtle steps.

i find some parts are a lot more pesimistic and things are especially hopeless and awful when they are around. can be hard to see or accept that what they believe/feel isn't necessarily what other parts believe/feel. it is like different parts can have different world views. but hard to accept that because when they are around they feel like everything (not just a part).

sometimes it helps me when t can help point out things that have improved. it is hard to see small change.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
Thanks for this!
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