Following on from "what would help" I had a dream last night where someone was after me. There were lots of obsticles that I had to dive under and then I arrived in what I felt was the safety of other people, I remember sitting on a cozy sofa and the people I'd arrived at were happy and dancing and being merry and I had the option to remain in this comfortable place (the safety of someone else dealing with my fears) or carrying on with the obsticles and for some reason I knew I had to leave this comfortable place/zone and continue to get away from whom ever was after me. I reached the outside and knew I had done it, I had completely lost my persuers and not just put them of by protecing myself with the comfort zone and the hope that these other people will protect me. I think this is how it felt with T saying that sentence rather then her asking me what could she do, which perhaps she was meaning as well, but the "what would help" was like giving me the key to my own door rather then passing the key over for her to open the door!! Phew hope I dont dream anything as frantic and nerve wrecking again for the next few months LOL!! that was hard work, but hopefully it signals I am begining to beat my fears more independently now.