Thank you Sky. i appreciate all you have to say. i agree it's a rather large presumption on my in-law's parts. The thing is, i find myself stepping up to the proverbial plate on this one. i don't know if this is just what i'm about or what. Most of my work, when i worked, was for a cause. Maybe i'm making up for childhood travesties i couldn't control--i don't know really but it would make sense. There were people i couldn't save and responsibility i took on even though i was powerless to do anything about it at the time. i have my adult understanding and i have my child understanding existing together.

So, while i completely agree with what you've said, i'm not sure i'm capable of NOT taking them in. Believe me, we will be having a discussion about expectations and concerns before anything is decided. i'm just not sure turning them away is in my DNA.

My m-i-l is being discharged from the hospital today and, at least for the next few weeks, will have home health care in the forms of physical and occupational therapy and a bath aid. After that, we'll see.

Really, my rant is/was about the culmination of a number of stresses but i've gotten fairly used to it over the years, unfortunately. i remembered my childhood just six months after my daughter was diagnosed with autism and two months after a hysterectomy. It's the way things go.

Thank you again for your care and support.