Good for you......it takes being strong & setting those boundaries up front just like you are doing. Until he can respect you, there is no place for him anywhere around you, just like you are doing.

Giving him the time away & the time for you to set you boundaries in place with you so if he is capable of respecting you, then he will have to since he is not capable of respecting you on his own.

I realized that it would be obvious with time to be able to know if my husband ever changes even when I am not around him.....if he wants to change, he will & if he wants to show me any change, I am sure he will if he ever cared in the first place either (which I really doubt).

The sad thing in my case is that he really is a nice person.....my fights are in lack of communication & lying to me by not saying anything (cover up things he does) that aren't really that bad, but are financially irresponsibilities that are totally childish. Or I ask him a question that he knows I am depending on his answer for & he can't be man enough to say he doesn't know the answer because in his mind he does know the answer no matter how wrong it actually is.....that has cost me a lot in trusting his answers.....I can't seem to not feel the ability to try & depend on someone I feel I should be able to depend on, so in order to save myself, I have to stay I be completely responsible for myself........This I have found I really like the feeling of much better than ever feeling like I could ever depend on anyone ever again.

Putting up broudaries when you are living around someone 24/7 is almost impossible.....so it is really good that you have kicked him out of the house. If you & your daughter are feeling that much better without him already....this is a perfect sigh that he doesn't belong there no matter how he tries to weasel (no offence to poor cute weasels meant here) his way back into your life.

Good for you, way to go, I'm here rooting for you. It sounds like he got the picture to leave you alone.

I am proud of the way you handled the texting & the phone calls. Sometimes we have to be pushed pretty far before we take action, but then.....WATCH OUT!!!!

Thanks for the update & keep up the strength,
Debbie