Hello Yes -- I didn't mean to offend, either, and I thought I was pretty careful to frame my experience in terms of me.

The reason it is called "date rape" is because we are with someone we like and trust. Neither of my date-rape situations even involved falling asleep with the males involved. Substances that distort our judgment were heavily involved.

Plus, I would add that the people I found likeable and trustworthy when I was drinking and using are not the people I find likeable and trustworthy now. In fact, as I cleaned up, those friends were no longer interested in me.

There is an old saying, "Birds of a feather flock together and so do pigs and swine." Mostly, we hear the first part of this saying, because it is a lot more complimentary than the second part. Also "lie down with dogs, expect to get fleas." I had to completely reorganize my external life and my internal consciousness once I came to grips with the notion that I couldn't go on living the way I was. It's not fun or easy to acknowledge that people we like and with whom we have a history may not be good for us.

If your friends please you, and this incident seems like an aberration, I would never, ever advise you to reconsider or reflect. Your life suits you and that's what matters!