xtree, I always felt I wanted this, the ablity to win an argument, and I realised that wanting that is like me wanting to still drink but get drunk better. Sometimes its best to just walk away from arguments, especially if its not your "stuff", its just someone else wanting to drag you into their crazy emotions so they can sit back and watch you squirm..its like that age of dysfunctional game of passing the hot potoato. yes you can feel angry still and upset, but you can take those with you and parent yourself and calm yourself down. Being with crazy people makes you feel crazy, and winning isn't the solution you think it to be. Mastering your emotions takes time, but thats the real solution.