i think divorce has more to do with biology than marriage lol

being a zoologist, i can't help but look at everything from a scientific point of view. i see "falling in love" as a phenomenon where our bodies trick us into feeling like that simply to procreate. because, if you look, most divorces now a days around around the 3rd year of marriage. when a child is 3-5 is when they start doing things for themselves; they go potty by themselves, they can eat without help etc... so not both parents are absolutely required to take care of them.

and if you look at it from an evolutionary standpoint, once the child becomes old enough to start taking care of themselves, its time to look for some better genes to possibly improve on the next generation. the whole point of evolution is to have as many fit offspring as possible and, logically, having children with one man and one woman your whole life is kind of stupid in that sense. because if those children turn out to not be "fit" by those standards, your whole blood line has been compromised.

so, personally, i think people are only "meant to be together" for maybe 3-5 years and thats when the rose-colored glasses wear off. but im not completely cynical. i like to believe in love at first sight, and being together forever. but that takes a lot of work. and just because society feels one way doesn't mean you have to.

luckily, were in an age now where women don't have to marry right out of high school. and its common for women to be single in college, and we don't go to college just to look for a husband anymore.

i think you should do whatever makes YOU happy. if marriage isn't included in that then so be it. marriage is almost totally societal. people 200,000 years ago were not getting married. its an invention of the modern man and it all has to do with power and control in society and in a relationship.

im sorry if i offended anyone with my rambling.