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Originally Posted by Mouse_
xtree, I always felt I wanted this, the ablity to win an argument, and I realised that wanting that is like me wanting to still drink but get drunk better. Sometimes its best to just walk away from arguments, especially if its not your "stuff", its just someone else wanting to drag you into their crazy emotions so they can sit back and watch you squirm..its like that age of dysfunctional game of passing the hot potoato. yes you can feel angry still and upset, but you can take those with you and parent yourself and calm yourself down. Being with crazy people makes you feel crazy, and winning isn't the solution you think it to be. Mastering your emotions takes time, but thats the real solution.
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Hi Mouse ,
Not sure about X tree, but just thinking about this I think its more feeling like its winning wth ourselves in the frustratuion of not beign able to express ourselves . In reading her intial post I think I see this .
If you can't express yourself you are the one whos not really being present . And since we all make assumptions about other they or we are needing to make corrections when they are not right or are miss representing our true selves .
boxing is a nice visualization even though its a fighting one .
Its like having an opponent make several jabs and the other just stands there with thier arms at thier side .
Patricia