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Originally Posted by Xtree
I guess this is why we are in couples therapy, it is very difficult. I do not have to win, I need to at least keep up. I need to hold up end of communicating, that is where the problem is. Not just in couples therapy but in any situation that evokes my emotions.
you are right, learning coping skills in individual sessions is what needs to be done.
Xtree
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I get this X tree,
Its not about winning . Its about staying in the game but its not a game , but some think it is .. well you know what I mean .
And Im glad I found your thread because I haven't adressed this in depth. I think when it was being touched upon I was so flooded or struggling with gatherig my thoughts to express myself I couldn't connect that with when a therapist said are you blocking?
not many did ask that.
the mechanics of it never got worked out . And it sounds like your couples T and your husband are not seeing this hapening to you or they are waiting for you to comeout and share it .
I think working on it in individaul is a good idea and might feel safer . It's not easy and I feel for you .
Patricia