I decided to visit my old live journal site to look at my journal entries and I found this excerpt that a friend send me about relationships that I wish I read before i got into this one.

If A Man Wants You

If A Man wants you, nothing can keep him away If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit)to save you from heartache.


Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.


Slower is better.


Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends."

A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.


Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.


Don't stay because you think "it will get better" You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.


Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant. Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set a friends separate from him.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you speak up.


Never let a man know everything. He will uses it against you later.


You cannot change a mans behavior, Change comes from within. Don't ever make him feel more important than you are...even if has more education or in a better job.


Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.


Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.


A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.


You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.


You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.


Dating is fun...even if he isn't MR RIGHT Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him-he takes it for granted.


Never move into his mother's house.

Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies...You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.


Hope it helps someone else out there