Hard, yes, but a chance to heal!!!! I'm so sorry that this is going to impact you, too, but there will be a time when the two of you wiil be able to support one another. Does your T know about this, given advice to you about answering questions? Tread softly, there are two tender hearts that need to be taken care of. I wish you both all the strength you need to navigate through this. Offering warmth and caring.