I can see how scary this is for you to have your sis bring up memories by asking you questions and you will probably want your T to help you figure out how to help her without pulling you underneath. kinda like helping someone who is drowning, you want to help but you don't want them pushing you under to get their head above water.

Just a thought, though. You have shared history with her and at some point your shared experiences can be quite validating of your experiences and feelings. I was the only girl in a pretty awful homelife and both my brothers died young from wild living in reaction to our past. I never have anyone to validate my memories when they come back up and it is so lonely and painful by myself. All of those who abused me except one are dead and I do not have any way to objectively examine some of my memories to be sure they are real and not somehow twisted or inaccurate and that bothers me a lot.

My hope is that at some point you all can be a support to each other and a help to each other. i don't know if that is overly idealistic of me - in my home it was every man for himself - but maybe you and she can help each other on the way to wholeness. i hope so at least.

leslie and pixies