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Originally Posted by Xtree
Mastering your emotions is the secret. At least having some control over them where as they do not overwhelm you, cause you to lose your words or prevent your mind from going blank. What does these e symptoms have in common? Anxiety!
Great point, "understand your feelings". Getting in tune with them instead of hiding them. I think learning how to feel the hurt and knowing that you will survive it is the problem. Knowing if you feel a painful feeling it will pass at some point?
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There is no controlling emotions. This is what gets people in trouble in the first place. There is understanding them, allowing them, allowing grief........
If I am in a room full of people and suddenly I have an emotion surface I am not ashamed of that. I have every right to any emotion that I have. If anyone has any trouble with that, it is their problem, not mine.
Now I had to get to this point. I, like everyone else here, was ashamed of my feelings and I didn't understand them and I tried to hide them.
Once you unload all of your past unexpressed feelings you will be much more able to deal with any emotions that come up today. My stash of feelings is empty. Anything that I am feeling today is from today or maybe from the last few weeks if I am still dealing with something.
Some times I get triggered and then I realize that I have a little more work to do on something or I realize that I need to be mindful that this sort of situation can trigger me but then once you realize this it can't be triggered anymore!