Chelbert,

Your list is exactly what I have held by all my life with guys. That was the list I put up front before I got married & told told him if he didn't agree, then I had no intention of getting married.

For awhile, I tolerated a few things until they got to the point where I couldn't tolerate them anymore.

It is really interesting how their argument against these rules is that we are controlling because they don't want to recognize that we are just taking care of ourselves & setting up the boundaries that if a guy had any respect in the first place, we wouldn't have to set up.

These rules work both ways as relationships are a 2 way street, but you usually don't see guys being treated in the bad way men treat women (mind you, that is qualified with the word "usually").

The list is definitely the best rule of thumb & the most comprehensive I have seen. I know holding to these values has saved me from getting into horrible relationships. Hopefully others will be able to be helped by them also. It just seems that so many people like to live that soap opera, romance novel life rather than a wonderful, sensible, respected, down to earth life that comes when following those rules.

Thank you for sharing,
Debbie