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Originally Posted by che170
Thank you all for your kind and supportive words. It can be very difficult as i'm sure most of you know. I have been told the same thing before, it sounds like abuse. I'd hate to think I am in this type of relationship and everything he has said to me was in the "honeymoon" phase and just to keep me here. That's one of the things that hurts so much, i love him and hope he means it when he says it to me too, but who knows. Whether it's BP or not, is that an excuse and can this change? I'd hate to think I was taken for a fool, I really want to believe he loves me.
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I have been told the same thing before, it sounds like abuse
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Maybe now that a few more have confirmed it for you you'll be able to accept it.
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Whether it's BP or not, is that an excuse and can this change?
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An illness or dissability is never an excuse unless its an unknown.
Once its known one learns to take resonsibility as best one can .
Change is specific to each person . Some can and others won't or can't or find it very difficult to do so . Addictions / patterns are difficut to change but they can be overcome. Change does take time and effort.
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I'd hate to think I was taken for a fool, I really want to believe he loves me.
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When someone lies repeatedly it makes everything questionalble after while .
Im not taken for a fool , I " volunteer" because I don't pay attention to the little voice thats trying to shout at me and is waving the red flags furriously in my face . I usually have help ingnoring or down playing issues from the other . I want the good stuff and I ingnore the not so great . And I don't like to give up on people either . Some selfish hope of mine involved
You can try to make some new friends and begin looking for a place to live on your own . You may need this if you decide to set limits and boundires for behavior you are no longer willing to tolerate .
Patricia