in ourselves and others?

I am considering this. How do I offer and recieive honest feedback that is not judging, blaming or shaming?

Any thoughts?

This is extremely difficult for me to recieve positive feedback. I am very attuned and expect harsh criticism, punishment, betrayal and anger from others.

It is the loveable part that is most challenging for me.

I had a recent experience with three chat buddies who attended me in a difficult time. I felt their non-judging and kind presence and was able to utilize the suggestons they offered.

When I recieved some feedback recently from another source I was not able to benefit from it. I experienced it as a replay--a re-enactment of the humiliation and abuse I had as a young child.

Your thoughts on the matter?

It's a topic of interest to me.

Another is why do I continually try and get everyone to like me? Why can't I accept that some people will see me demonically and others will see me as a loving and kind person?

I'm the same person, I'm just seen through the lens of someone else's judgment. My friends exaggerate my positive qualities and my enemies exaggerate my negative qualities. Both ignore oppositie evidence.

Consequently, I must find myself, and accept myself, all parts of myself, even the ones that are disturbing to others as wholesome and important parts of how I survived a lifetime of trauma.

I would love to hear your thoughts.