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This is a great realization.

I have a buddhist friend who is very centered and very good at self-care and I remember once I was reading a bed time story to one of my boys and I was in so much pain because I was having an allergic reaction to the earrings I was wearing. It had been bothering me all day. Suddenly, I thought "Would (my friend) let herself stay in pain like this?" and I realized I wasn't doing the most BASIC self care. So I took out the earrings right there reading to my son and felt so much better.

It's crazy that we have to learn to think this way....stepping back and looking, it seems SO obvious...but I'm sure a lot of us DO need to learn this.

Just yesterday, I was in a horrible spot emotionally. I e-mailed T and asked for a response, but could NOT figure out a way to help myself feel better,and I felt really bad. I imagined what someone else might do, and I made myself a nice cup of hot tea and just let myself sip it and feel its warmth and relax, and I felt a little better.

I'm glad that you are learning this lesson Mouse, because you DO deserve good care!!