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Originally Posted by peaches100
Mixedup,
I think it's good, not only that you set and enforced a necessarily limit with your neighbors, but that you aren't beating yourself up for it. You asked them to leave nicely at first, and then when they failed to respond, you asserted yourself more. It sounds like it has stirred things up in the neighborhood. That's understandable if your assertiveness is new for them. It will cause the dynamics of your relationship to change somewhat. Hopefully, they will adjust to your new assertiveness and respect your limits better. But at first, it may ruffle things up. It sounds like you are coping well. Housework can be a good way to keep your mind on other things. But it sounds like the anxiety is still present subconsciously and affecting your sleep. Give yourself a pat on the back for setting a needed limit and try not to worry about how the neighborhood situation will play out. Take it a step at a time.
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Thanks, Peaches.....I was warned by my T that I would get resistance from being more assertive with people. I guess emotionally I'm not yet prepared for it, but I'm forcing myself to be more assertive and hoping my emotions will catch up.
I am trying to suppress the anxiety which, from what my T says, is not the best way to handle it. Bringing it to the surface and working through it is the course of action I should take. I just can't bring myself to do that right now because I'm already overwhelmed as it is with daily life and simply cannot handle a thing more. Just like my T said, I'm saturated.
I try to put it out of my mind....but the anxious feeling still remains in the pit of my stomach. It's amazing how your body does whatever the heck it wants to, even if your mind is working so hard to do something else. *sigh*
I am hoping that I will get the courage to step up my game a bit in group therapy on Tuesday....and then face some real issues at my individual T appt on Thursday. But I'm afraid. Just disclosing some things in my past to T a couple weeks ago left me sooooo anxiety ridden for DAYS. I couldn't handle it. I don't want to face that again.
One day at a time.....one day at a time....