Can you go stay at your daughters to help her out? Why put up with his nasty behaviour toward your family. Your children need you know matter how old they are and to let a man stop you from doing what you need/want to do as a mom is WRONG. I'm sorry, i don't mean to upset or offend anyone...it's just I have seen so many women put jerky men in front of their kids and I don't understand how they do that. My kids come before everything, including my husband. He knows and agrees with that. They didn't ask to be born or brought into this world. Esp at this time your daughter needs your love, support, guidance and you need to stand up and be a role model for her.
Good luck