[quote=sky dancer;1012179]in ourselves and others?

I am considering this. How do I offer and recieive honest feedback that is not judging, blaming or shaming?

Speak from your heart - listen with your heart - take what feels right -m understand that we all have our own views and have a right to them - dont take offence when someone differs from your view - dont take it personally - its just their view - we are all here to help one another


This is extremely difficult for me to recieve positive feedback. I am very attuned and expect harsh criticism, punishment, betrayal and anger from others.

The hardest part I found was just saying thankyou if someone said somthig nice to me - instead of downplaying it - like gee thats a nice skirt - oh its old and shows off how fat I am !! I just say thankyou

It is the loveable part that is most challenging for me.

Me too!!!

I had a recent experience with three chat buddies who attended me in a difficult time. I felt their non-judging and kind presence and was able to utilize the suggestons they offered.

thats great

When I recieved some feedback recently from another source I was not able to benefit from it. I experienced it as a replay--a re-enactment of the humiliation and abuse I had as a young child.

Im sorry that happened - maybe you took it personally? if they were rude you should report them - this is a place for support

Another is why do I continually try and get everyone to like me? Why can't I accept that some people will see me demonically and others will see me as a loving and kind person?

I think you answer this in the next paragraph

Consequently, I must find myself, and accept myself, all parts of myself, even the ones that are disturbing to others as wholesome and important parts of how I survived a lifetime of trauma.

that is a brilliant statement

take care -