so well said, john. there is nothing harder than someone questioning the basis of who i think i am, when i do it so often. i need re-enforcement...lots of it yes, that's my problem. yes, that's why i come here yes, that's why i think the subject should be kept to PM or similarly-minded sites. right now i don't really know who or what i am. my core has been rocked. however, that's another thread. sorry. it's just my point that a strong religious debate could come close to taking me down right now. i realize that's my responsibility, though. it's very, very hard. however, it's wonderful to know that i can come here and 99.9% of the time, not see something that could rock my core. not everyone can handle such core issues alot of the time. just relating my experience to the basics of what i think john is saying.

i'm not speaking specifically here, about avatars, etc. i'm speaking generally.

peace to all.