I decreased my frequency of meetings beginning in January from weekly to every other week. I was feeling like I was doing well, my desire to have the weekly meetings seemed bound up in my enjoyment of T's company rather than just working on my life problems, and so I thought I should decrease. Not to mention that my income has taken a big hit due to my divorce, and I pay T 100% out of pocket. I had felt proud that I stuck to my every other week frequency all year so far. At the end of each session, T always asks me when I want to come in next, so it is up to me to set the frequency. But the last couple of weeks, at the end of my session, he has pulled out his appointment book as usual, and instead of asking when I want to come in next, he has said, "can you come in next Tuesday, at 10 am?" (or whatever). It's been great to have him do that, because if it were up to me, I probably wouldn't. About 6 weeks ago I did ask for a session only a week after, but he said he was all full. End of story, appointment book closes. I took that to mean he didn't think I should come every week, although he never said that, of course. It just feels good to have him take charge and ask me if I can come the following week. I feel like it means he knows I need him more right now, so he's scheduling me more frequently.