BTC's blog had a post about the pains of therapy,
and why in h-e-doublehockeysticks don't they tell you what to expect

yesterday I spotted an opportunity to voice this to my T, who from earliest days told me NOTHING about the process, and would get evasive when I would ask

Took my courage in my two hands and said, ya know, it is very scary not knowing anything about this process,;you gave me no outline of what to expect, zero information even when I asked for it, and I had to go out reading on my own (and some of the reading was probably not what I needed but how would I know that) - have a little pity wouldja, fearing the unknown is so much worse than knowing what's going on or how far the damage is likely to extend.

she actually got pretty cool with me, for T... maybe I damaged my precious UPR, I don;t know......i got a feeling that she didn't appreciate this line of feedback AT ALL.
She gave no apology, that's for sure; all she told me was that becoming able to tolerate the anxiety of not knowing what comes next is part of the healing process.

I've been thinking about this a lot. Not thrilled either. but at least I know, and it's worth something. bottom line, for you who are just starting, trust the process.................. and here is a for you.....