That's interesting, Sitting. I also went in pretty blind and had to read up a little on my own as things came up (I've found PC very helpful for this, and some of the Briere stuff). I've purposely not read too much because I didn't want to be second guessing everything she did, but it got to a point where I did need more explanation of why I was putting myself through this, what the point of it all was supposed to be. I think you give good advice.

Obviously, I wasn't there...but I've often thought my T is having some kind of negative reaction...and then when I ask her about it later, she says that wasn't what she was thinking at all. Maybe it's worth asking her if what you think she thought is what she really thought? I don't know. It's tricky, and I don't like it when I feel the UPR threatened either...but I try to remember that she is human...and she might have a personal reaction to something I say...but our whole relationship won't change just because of one little thing...that that's not how she operates (thank goodness).