I'm sorry that you're hurting right now, Peaches. I certainly understand why you would feel like you want physical comforting from someone like your T.
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Originally Posted by peaches100
Between the suggestion of seeing a different therapist -- and the urging for me to take care of my own nurturing needs -- I'm pretty sure the message she is giving me is "No, I will not provide physical nurturing to the hurt little girl part of you. You need to do it for yourself."
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Based on everything I've read that you've posted about this topic and her responses, I think it sounds like you are correct in your reading -- you are not going to get this from her the way you want to. To me, it sounds like she is just not comfortable with including this in your therapy. I think my T would take the same approach. I think it's less common for a T to use it for a variety of reasons (personal comfort, liability, training, what they think is good for the client).
Because you've seen her for so long, and you have said you can't get past this need from her, maybe trying something new is a good idea, at least to explore it? I don't think she was trying to get rid of you in suggesting trying out the other type of T, I think she was actually trying to be caring and respond to your stated needs (my T is a problem solver too and does similar things).
I'm sure this is a very senstive topic, it would be for me, too. I'm really sorry it's so hard.
I think I would try to remember that your T does care about you, even if she isn't comfortable expressing it physically.