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Originally Posted by sunrise
He also shared again (last session too), about his own marriage, which I find helpful. We have some striking similarities in our marriages and their break-ups. It makes me feel a little better about my efforts because even T, with all his relationship skills, could not have success in his own (first) marriage.
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Originally Posted by searchingmysoul
I have found the use of self disclosure on the part of my T to be very helpful and healing. This is *I think* the part where it is the relationship that is the healer... At least for myself that has been true.
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I really agree with this. I think self-disclosure from the therapist can be a very valuable healing tool. My T self discloses a lot, and I think this really fits with what he sees as his healing role. The first session we had together, he made the pronouncement, "I'm not a therapist, I'm a healer." And recently he commented to me about a time in his past, "and that was when I was getting into the healing arts." So I know there was a transition in his professional approach to be more on healing. Before that he was a therapist for quite a few years, so I guess he did therapy then but without so much of a healing emphasis (or perhaps without making healing the top priority). That is very interesting to me and I think I will ask him about it sometime. How was he different as a therapist before his emphasis on healing? I am glad I know him now, because I have really needed healing!