I'm sorry you're feeling scared and sick right now, Phoenix. If I was facing so much uncertainty, I would feel that way too.

There are other ways to offer comfort besides those that involve physical touch. Has your T offered you any (non-physical) comfort? If so, have you been able to accept it at all, or was it just not comforting to you? My T does not provide touch as part of therapy either, although we sometimes hug at the end of sesssions. Yet, he is very comforting in many ways.

I know your T's response was not what you hoped for, but it sounds to me like your T is considering your needs and how to get them met. She's thinking about you outside of session! She is telling you that providing comforting touch is outside of her scope of practice and she has looked for someone who could provide you with an experience that could be healing for you. And she is not referring you on to someone else (giving up), but she is wanting to keep working with you but allow you to see another practitioner too (some T's like clients to see only one therapist at a time). I know you wanted something else from her, but it doesn't sound to me like she is giving up.

Somatic Experiencing is a form of therapy based on Peter Levine's theories on trauma (described in his book, "Waking the Tiger"). My therapist has some training in this and we have done a bit of it, especially early in my therapy when we were doing EMDR and trauma work. Based on what I know, somatic experiencing does not involve physical touch between the client and the therapist. It involves learning to become very aware of the physical sensations in your body, and where you feel things in your body when emotions come up. And how to discharge the tensions you become aware of. That's my limited understanding. There is a brief description here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatic_Experiencing

There are therapists who provide therapeutic touch and I think this is often called "bodywork" and there are different varieties of this with different names. My T has talked about these therapies a little bit and says they can be very healing and in fact, that straight "talk therapy" is old-fashioned. He has said some really great work in psychotherapy is being done by combining body therapy and talk therapy (but he doesn't do this). I guess someone could also combine bodywork and Somatic Experiencing techniques. Maybe the SE T your therapist knows does this. It could be interesting to speak with the therapist your T recommended and see what she does provide.

I have worked on this in therapy also, and did find it helpful and healing. I think your T is trying a lot of ideas with you and hoping something will resonate. It could very well be that she may run out of ideas. Maybe something she suggests will be what ends up helping. Sometimes it can be helpful to visit someone new for a fresh approach and different skills and emphasis. It seems like your T is open to this or she would not have recommended the SE therapist. But she is also allowing you to continue with her, so you don't need the additional pain of separating from her and your 10 year relationship.

It sounds like you have tried this on your own (comforting a younger you), but not with your T's guidance, or else your T would not have asked you if you had tried it or not. I would find it very hard to do (at least initially) without a professional telling me how and what to do. Can you have some sessions where your T guides you through this? I think it unrealistic of a therapist to expect a client to be able to do this on their own without coaching.