sitting, i think it is good that you spoke up. i'm not sure i agree with your t that t's shouldn't tell their clients much about therapy if that's the general approach she takes. i tried therapy when i was younger for several years and with several ts and it just didn't work for me. it's only been from really understanding the process and searching out a specific type of t (psychodynamic) that therapy has helped me and even now it's slow progress and requires trial and error in the method. i think people are different so different people need different things. i don't have anxiety about the process but i did have a need to understand how therapy works so i could find one that was actually helpful and not a big waste of time, money, and much energy.

reading this forum has helped me so much, so a big thanks to everyone here.