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Old May 06, 2009, 09:00 PM
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Originally Posted by shezbut View Post
How can I work on the present without accepting the past? I am unable to accept me. For whatever reason, my memory gets triggered, and I am haunted. A vicious cycle that becomes more stressful and painful as time passes. I wish that I didn't have to be so unhappy. Why can't I just let go already?? I seriously cannot stand the memory, yet I can't stop trying to figure out who in the heck I am. I hate it!!
Have you tried changing your focus in therapy to work on some of the issues of the past? I know my T feels that it's important to get out of crisis before we can figure out the "whys" of certain things. But at the same time, if certain things in the past are causing so much turmoil in the present - then I would feel as though it needed to be addressed.

I'm hurting for you....
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