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May 06, 2009, 09:24 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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Reina...
I think the important things for you to observe are the facts that you recognize behavior that you aren't proud of, you recognize that your behavior could have had an impact on someone else, and you have empathy for that person and would like to rectify things. These are all very positive attributes in a person that show you are a caring person.
Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone says something to somebody at some point in there lives that later on the wish they didn't say. It is, unfortunately, human nature to a degree. Do you need to be punished for it....I don't think so. I think you have learned something from this about yourself and you can now make a more conscious decision about how you do want to treat people from here on out. I think that's the most important thing.
I was bullied and tormented by EVERYONE at my school, and never received any apologies. This behavior from others has made it so difficult to trust others and has helped me to have a lower sense of self worth. It wasn't just one person's comment or action though, it was the multitude of kids that never realized, never knew, and truthfully, at the time, never cared. It would make my day if someone that used to bully me would account for their behaviors and offer an apology...but for me, I think it would also be bittersweet. My faith in mankind is damamged...I don't know how to fix it.
I think, if you would like to say a little something to her, she would probably appreciate it. Maybe you could write her a letter to just let her know that you recognize this behavior and that you are sorry. Whether she noticed it at the time or not, she will probably appreciate it...and you never know, you might get to talking and find you both have something in common...you could find a friend in this person.
Good luck to you, and take care...
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