View Single Post
 
Old May 06, 2009, 10:11 PM
shezbut's Avatar
shezbut shezbut is offline
Legendary
 
Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: Rochester, MN
Posts: 12,565
Quote:
Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions View Post
Have you tried changing your focus in therapy to work on some of the issues of the past? I know my T feels that it's important to get out of crisis before we can figure out the "whys" of certain things. But at the same time, if certain things in the past are causing so much turmoil in the present - then I would feel as though it needed to be addressed.

I'm hurting for you....
No, I haven't been willing to look at the distant past until the last year or so. I have mentioned my childhood lightly, but I never went before age 12. My uncle in-law molested me from age 12-14. I finally told my parents and a counselor of that when I was 16. While I tried to work through the issue for years, I also continued to repress memory of incest whenever it showed it's head.

My life is a complete shambles all around me. I look back and see that I have always had major dramas happening within my life. Psychologists and medical doctors saying that I'm going through a lot - it will get better as time passses. Yet, it hasn't ever gotten better. Instead, it's gotten progressively worse over the years.

I wonder if I'm really close to solving the mystery, to who I am & what has happened to me, and that's why things continue to get worse?? It's very strange when that memory comes back again. I get a chill down my spine, breathe shallow, and I am terrified! My thoughts come so fast, I can't keep track. One thought I do continue to have is I'm horrified that I could completely forget. I question the validity ~ How could I forget, remember, forget, remember again, etc. for years and years?