heres somthing you might try to get you started - it comes from an exercise frm "The courage to heal" book

first write how oyu feel about the inner child - dont hold back - if you are angry that she is soooo needy (mine) then tell her - say everything you feel no matter how hard or horrible it is.

then read it

2nd write a letter to a child that has been through what has happened to you and let her know how you feel about her

I found the first letter was really nasty and accusing and disconnected - I told her I didnt believe she even existed !!!

the 2nd letter was kind and generous and loving

the next part of the exercise is to start treating yourself as you would others and offer the same kind thoughts and feelings to yourself that you would to others (easier said than done- but I keep trying! )

dont know if this will help you - just a thought.... I hope the fear subsides soon and you fele better