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Old May 07, 2009, 11:14 AM
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Hi,
sometimes in a relationship, one is more physical than the other. I understand how you feel. that you need more than sex and you also need hug and cuddles separate from sex. He probably thinks everythings fine because he only has physical needs and expresses them through sex. You need to have a nice talk and tell him that you want to feel closer physically outside of sex. Women are by nature more emotional and it's connected to our sexual desire - meaning the nicer the man is outside the bedroom, the more we will feel like having sex. Experts say that FOREPLAY starts long before the bedroom, via a hug/genuine kiss/doing something considerate/holding hands.
As the old saying goes 'the squeeky hinge gets the oil'. Don't nag him - but gently encourage him and tell him you need those things in addition to sex.Tell him you need more than sex. Tell him that for a week you and he will hug/kiss every time one of you leaves the house and do the same when returning. Sit together and holds hands or maybe give each other a shoulder massage. On nights when you're not having sex, just cuddle next to each other. I remembering seeing on TV that women are actually turned on when their man helps out with simple chores - encourage him to randomly do that. Hope this helps.
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