Zen, how old are you(if I can ask). I have just been dx perimenopause at 35. I have had symptoms for the last 4 years. My PMS is shocking and looking at anti-depressants(we will see).

I also have adenomyosis and endometriosis. Please get your hormone levels checked and maybe an ultrasound on your abdomen and uterus to rule out physical causes. Premenstrual dysphoric disorder is real and documented. Women have been known to hurt their significant other in the name of this disorder.......it can be terribly debilitating. If you have a mood disorder on top of it......devastating.

I hear you babe......confusing, draining and downright terrifying......don't mess with the hormones, they are a formidable force!!

Good luck babe.........