I have a lot of safe touch with T. Probably similar to the type of touch a parent and child have.

I tend to sit sideways on the couch with my knees pulled up and my feet on the cushion, and sometimes when he sits on the couch, my toes touch his leg. It doesn't feel like anything except a point of connection, but a comfortable one. T holds my hand if I am sad OR if I just want to connect, and it feels safe and good. We hug at the end of session. Really, we touch a lot.

I think the reason it feels safe is because there is no sexual undertones in the room, there is no threat of being hurt physically, and we spent a long, long, long, long time working up to the level of safe touch that we have.

We've talked about it quite a bit (we don't much anymore, although we will sometimes "check in" around it). It's just about comfort and connection, and that feels safe and good to me.