One nice thing that my T does is emails with me. She is really consistent about it, almost always responding either that night or the next morning. In fact, she emailed with me the entire time she was on maternity leave, when she totally did not have to do that! I try to remember how generous she's been when I'm feeling like she doesn't care -- that she has shown that she does by her actions.

I guess the thing I'd want her to do is to be more emotionally expressive, without me having to ask for it. It doesn't bother me usually, but ocassionally when I'm upset, it really pushes my buttons (spiraling into thinking she doesn't actually care about me, everything's terrible, etc.). So, yeah, that's what I'd like.

Good thread...