'Plans' are not good (we all know what I mean)....that's the next step, AND DON"T TAKE IT......I'm breaking the rules by refering to this in your post, but since you mentioned it, it must be addressed. You should seek councelling on this issue as soon as possible. This is an emergency you should be aware of before it's too late...
Please post back, I want to help you.....I feel we all do....