I was looking through the forums just now and came across a thread posted by peppermint patty about keeping a journal/diary. Well ever since I started psychotherapy when I was 5 I have kept a journal. About 4 years ago I had an affair. Well I don't know if it qualifies as an affair because I started seeing the guy about 3 weeks afer my husband kicked me out of the house for relapsing. But anyway, my husband and I reconciled and got backtogether after 3 months of seperation. Things were going great until he read my journal apparently he had been reading it the whole time we were back together. It had someof my most personal thoughts and feelings in it. In one particular entry it talked about how my husband got on my nerves and how I thought he was a mean *****. Well he got mad and yelled and screamed. Well I was hurt that he would sink to that level to read something he knew I held sacred. So I had to burn my diary. I felt violated. So I got a new one. And he read that one too! So now I quit journaling. For the first time since I was in kindergarten I have'nt kept a journal. He said he had the right to read it because i cheated on him and he had the right to know what was going on in my head. I think this is a voilation of my privacy. For those who keep jounals and are serious about writting in them everyday, you know how sacred and private your journal is. I felt better when I jounaled sometimes I would write in it 3 and 4 times a day especailly when I was having a panic attack. Now I cant' keep one he first read a jounal of mine when we wee together only 4 months and it was one i had kept in highschool. I am afraid to keep one although I miss writting in one everyday. Is it ok for him to do this because I cheated?